Well, I'm not really going anywhere. We really don't celebrate, in fact last year I even forgot what day it was, and he told me first. If any of you other wives have forgotten it is ok. I think twice we went out to eat. It is our 9th anniversary by the way. According to brides.com traditional gifts are pottery, modern is leather and the metal or gemstone is lapis lazuil, whatever that is?
I can say my life with this man isn't always easy. The day we got married I said I had my third child. We never had a honeymoon. My son likes to ride trains, so we traveled a few hours and as a family went on a scenic railroad trip the day after. He is pretty immature at times and eats a trash diet, he says to cut out the nursing home years. Maybe I married a raccoon? If there's something he doesn't want to do, generally he doesn't. He's obsessed with wrestling on television and is a tv hog. He sweeps around stuff, not getting under it a won't touch "used food" as he calls it, which is leftovers, not even to carry them outside for the cats. He has terrible gas and snores awful. He's obsessed with looking at Ford trucks, farm tractors and equipment online that we'll never have. He has a bad sense of humor and curses too much.
Now that you see the side of him most every husband has, I will tell you about the other side. Most all of us say in our vows, for richer and poorer. We're hardly ever rich. I guess at pay day, and then the bills get paid, so it is poorer most of the time. Forsaking all others, that I know he does. I don't ever worry he would run off with another woman maybe a tractor or truck. He doesn't have to worry about me leaving him either. His family told me on our wedding day, no give backs. They told my brother-in-law the same thing. In sickness and in health he is a rock. My kids had so many sicknesses and hospitalizations when they were young. Pneumonia, appendicitis, and other things where I spent days or sometimes nearly two weeks in the hospital with them. My parents too spent nights in the hospital and I had to be with them. Before my dad died, he would give him the urinal and help care for him. He does things to help my mother too who is not very mobile. He helped my get dressed on the days I couldn't get my shoes and socks on with my hurt back and took me to the emergency room and home from surgery. He left work to pick me and my daughter up at the ER when I passed out at urgent care from COVID this past Christmas break. If we need feminine products he goes to the store and gets them.
I know he isn't the perfect husband, and I am not the perfect wife. He jokes that our wedding vows said obey. I tell him is not 1800, and he knows I am not going to most of the time. We have humor with each other that people don't understand. We insult each other and tell each other the truth, even if it isn't always in the nicest of ways. If we are in public, people may think there is something wrong with us. I told him I didn't even want to marry him or be with him and he never left me, even though we have been through a lot. I know not a lot compared to some people, but enough. I think my life is better with him. I am glad he didn't leave when I told him to. We don't tell each other much we love each other, but we do. We don't call each other "baby" and "dear". Not many men become a stepfather to two kids even when they don't have their own kids in their 30s. I know it is hard being a parent, we learn all the time.
I hope someday we can have a honeymoon, on a beach in Florida. He actually said he would go with me to the beach! I hope it can happen, after the kids are older. For now, we'll continue to go through the good and bad days being broke most of the time flinging insults at each other, and we'll be happy that way. Love isn't a cookie cutter, and neither is life, but we're in it together, until death do us part.
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